Where do all the bad people go?

Hello,
Fine fine baby, bolanle :-) random ey?.How are you fine fine people? Thanks so much for your comments, you are too sweet..I get what most of you wrote, some people just want privacy while some will learn eventually.I will act accordingly.. Moving on-----------------

One thing about me is that I like to know wonder what is going on in the mind of a convict/proclaimed bad person. Lets say, if a person is caught stealing, I always wonder how the thief feels and how much self persecution they might be going through..Thats just me, maybe thats why I keep looking for job openings in the prison.*-* Which leads to my post for today which was inspired by a blog I read today and a comment about anger being a trigger to abuse.. You know how most people say when you are in an abusive relationship, run for your life. I wonder what happens to the abuser? I mean does the abuser mention the real reason while there last relationship broke down? Are all abusers mandated to serve or are they doomed for a lifetime of loneliness? Shey every cupid arrow flying their way must be sent back to the sender? or cupid must go on vacation when they decided to change and find love again? Do they really change or the abusive actions is suppressed? I personally think they can change with God's grace and counselling etc but it will take time and lots of time which cant be done while in a relationship..

For instance, if the abuser decides to go for anger management assuming that is the root cause of their behaviour, will they still be qualified to go back into the dating realm? I wonder if people would appreciate a man/woman who tells the real reason (they were abusive) their previous relationships broke down..Or if the abuser eventually change say in ninetygbogboro years, should they cover that dark past to find love again abi they should take the risk of saying the truth and risk being lonely..Ha i guess thats one of the price you pay or is it? Personally, i think abusers mention their dark past in new relationships but in a subtle sugar coated way. My ex ones said he was talking to his ex-girlfriend and when she tried walking out on him, he held her back and next thing she flew on the bed. Uhmm that wont register in ones head right away as he pushed or hit her and she flew on the bed rather its seen as minor misunderstanding. I guess this is were educating oneself more about current topics such as domestic violence, is very important.

 Lets discuss, can you date/marry someone who tells you about their past as an abuser and steps they have taken to change over the years? Should this bad people be forever restricted from loving even after efforts to change? Should we keep running from them? Change isnt easy and it takes time..

In my opinion, why is it that men have to forgive a wife or girlfriend that shows signs of abuse but for the guys, people say run for your life? dont you think it should be the same? I mean if the lady shows those red flags, men should run or perhaps men now have the I am Jesus aka Saviour mindset that their love will change the lady.. Ha this whole love thing, people have plenty interpretation oh..

I shall always maintain my stand, if your relationship is beginning to look like an atilogu or new masquerade dance competition, you better find your levels..Its not love its stupidness..

I dont believe anyone should wait around for an abuser to change. Just maybe and maybe your departure might make them see the light who knows? Ha, that doesnt mean you should go back or does it? is there still hope? As for me, the past must stay in the past including every ex that treated me as crap but in another person's life, they can be a future just not mine.abi I  lie?

Have a wonderful weekend :-)