*Updated video* What is your Domestic scorecard?

Nnor!! Wei Dhzun!! Bawo!! Kilon Sparkles!!


My apologies...How is everyone doing?

Its been a while I know :) I have been reading blogs ey, so I know what is happening. Its just that work and life in general is happening so fast..

To today's post, a friend shared this with me.Shebi you want to mali *marry*? Yes or No??  I cant hear you!!LOL Ngwanu wetin be your domestic score card? Lets talk! The hashtags are my words


The rate at which marriages/relationships collapse now is assuming a social symbol status in our society. In few years time, people will be throwing divorce parties and invite friends and well-wishers to celebrate their divorce anniversaries; they will choose aso-ebi, hire a hall and popular musicians. Even a question like "So when are u getting divorced?" will become commonplace.

If you know you can't handle the weight and pressures of marriage, please remain single. #psychosocialspritually ready! "I do" is not just 2 words, they are 2 words that could make or break you depending on what you do

If you don't know what marriage is all about, please remain single until you do. #how will you know?

If you are getting married because of the things you desire or hope to gain from the other person, or to satisfy your fantasies, please remain single. #marriage brings out the monster and sweetheart in you

If you know you can't be faithful, remain single. #ashewo no be work whether you are getting paid or not

 Don't get married out of desperation, because you think you are getting too old. #ogbeni you will rush out

 Don't just get married because of the pressures from your families. They are not the one getting married-you are! #pressures wear off eventually, device a plan to stop it. Refocus. ko easy i know

You desire a successful home, but if your choice of friends are those whose marriages have collapsed. It is simple - they'll make you drink from their poisoned chalice. Once that happens, ur marriage is in a process of dying a slow death. Be very mindful of where you go for advices. #Need I say more? Personally I dont seek relationship advice from people whose marriage I least admire. The way some men/women treat their wife in public is enough! Talkless nice/respectful women with undercover ashewo husbands.

Guys
 If u know u can't stay responsible please remain single until you mature. *Will they mature?You need Jesus for this one

There's no way u can abandon the care of ur family at the expense of your lifestyle. They are your priority and everything else including u comes last.  #right! stop riding Bentleys *expensive cars* and parking them in front of your run-down apartment..Stop trying to keep up with Ritchie!His house and cars might be on lease who knows! atleast in this country most people ride brand new/ fairly used cars with monthly payment. Go figure!.

You are the teacher, the guide, the bodyguard, the spiritual leader, the role model. # Dont go acting like a superstar, do your work and be your own star..

You are not a deity. So don't expect to be worshipped. You need respect, earn it by being responsible. #thats right! Have a goal! Stay focused! Dont demand respect, let your actions/attitude command respect

Ladies
If you know you can't be submissive please don't go into marriage so you're not turned to a punching bag!
#Yes ladies! learn your gender role!! This is by no means endorsing domestic violence. Two co-workers said to me, the women from their country beat up their men if he tries to mess with them..Little wonder why most of them are single mothers and baby mamas?..Even a church member from that country said she cant submit to a man, for what? These are older women in their 50's who have been married, you can imagine what younger women from that country think..Ladies learn the difference between submission, obedience and foolishness....Drop that miss independent thing please, that mindset will blind you and chase the "one" away..No one said you aint independent, your attitude is too independent thats why no one wants to put a ring on it cos there is nothing to pursue! kapish?..If you are so independent then why desire a man? isnt that being dependent? #justsayin

 If u know u can't stand being corrected, please marry yourself. #ladies remember when your teacher/prof/parent use to give constructive criticism that you took that's why you  have come far in life, so kini big deal?

Don't throw ur spinsterhood garment away if you see respect as a big deal. #constructive silence weakens a man

Please check ur domestic scorecard - if ur score is zero, please stay in ur parents' house! LOL I will say please work on yourself

Update: I added a video!

P.s My last 2 post where removed because I suspect someone that isnt suppose to see my blog has seen it thanks to my phone browsing history. If you read that post then you know who I am talking of.

P.s.s I decided to follow my Dad's advice and keep praying..So far things are good at Hugsville

P.s.s.s I miss everyone and I shall revive my blogging etiquette..

Have a wonderful weekend y'aaaalllll :)